Pops is making good progress! It will still be a long road to recovery ~ but we are moving in the right direction.
They removed his breathing tube yesterday afternoon, and he has been breathing on his own. He looks a lot better! His right eye is no longer swollen shut. He recognized us as soon as we walked through the door & waved us over. He was able to communicate some things to me. He held our hands, responded when we said we love him. He even asked me for a kiss….
They have the mittens on still, he was trying to pull out the gravage tube that they are using for nutrition right now – swelling in his throats from the breathing tube makes swallowing a risk. The nurse did take off the mittens to allow us to hold his hands.
He remembered that his sister, Karen, was there to visit, and he seemed happy that she and his brother Mark will be there tomorrow to visit. He may be ready to move past old hurt and finally move forward as a family.
After our visit, we had to go clean out the apartment where he was living. They have asked that he not come back. We can’t really fault them for it. He has shown that he isn’t able to care for himself, and they aren’t equipped to care for him. He doesn’t have a lot of things…. it makes my heart hurt that his life can fit in a few totes and a couple larger items – a rocking chair, a tv, an old computer…. but hopefully he will be able to move somewhere close and we can help fill his life with more memories…. After all, the rest is just – stuff.
Now that he is healing, and close to being able to communicate, the next challenge is fast approaching. We need to convince him that he needs to be in a care facility. He has no where else to go, and whether he likes it or not, he NEEDS round the clock care, until we are sure he can take care of himself – take all medicine correctly, eat healthy meals, drink plenty of water…. he has been unable to hold up his end of the bargain when he is sent home from the hospital – so now we prepare to strongly guide him in the right direction.
Like I said – we have a long road ahead of us, but at least we have each other!