Tis the season to be THANKFUL. Yep, it’s still 2020. And we still happen to be in the middle of a pandemic and historical, unprecedented times. And a lot of this year has been a total and complete dumpster fire…. but there still is a lot to be thankful for and every year this memory shows up on my social media & it brings me back to the really good stuff. A reminder that you don’t have to always follow the arbitrary “rules” we put on ourselves, especially if it makes you happy.
I originally posted about this a few years back (https://crazyasamotherblog.wordpress.com/2017/11/16/be-the-corn/?preview=true)… if you have known me for a while, you probably know this story – you can read all about it in the link above, but I’ll share the basics.
When the boys were in kindergarten, they were getting ready for the annual Ladd Lane Thanksgiving Parade. They were supposed to choose between a Pilgrim or and Indian – whatever they thought of most when they think of Thanksgiving. Nate chose a Pilgrim & Kevin chose CORN.
His (absolutely fantastic) teacher didn’t make him choose what he was “supposed” to be. She went home that night and found a way to allow him to be the corn he wanted to be. I know, cute right?!? It absolutely was, but it was more than that for us.
It was an “aha” moment. A holy-crap, not everything has to be perfect to be good, kind of thing. I mean why should he choose to be an Indian or Pilgrim, if his heart said to be corn? Just because every other student had always done so? Nope, not for my Kevin.
I think this year, this message is more important than ever. In 2020, I have seen people judging other people’s choices. You wear a mask? You don’t? You stay home all the time? You socialize with your closest tribe outside of the home? It has been a bi-polar year, where Sensitive Sally and Cranky Karen are all up in everyone’s business.
Here’s the deal… everyone needs to do what they need to do to be happy. You want to eat cake for breakfast, go for it. You need a drink before noon to settle your nerves or celebrate something good – bottoms up. You want to put up Christmas decorations in October – hell yes! You do you. As long as your choices don’t put others in danger, it’s cool. You do you. Be the Corn.
You don’t have to agree with other peoples choices. You can respectfully distance yourself if you don’t agree. We all need different things to get through, especially in what is set to be the weirdest holiday season of our lives.
I hope you are celebrating Thanksgiving in whatever way you feel best.
I can’t end this without saying that I am grateful for so much this year. I’m thankful for my teenage turkeys, though they drive me crazy. I’m thankful for my home & my job. I’m thankful for my amazing man & his awesome son (and the whole family). I am thankful for friendships, new & old. I’m thankful for our perfectly imperfect life.
I’m also weirdly thankful that this year, being home with my boys for school & work that I have been able to let go of some of my “rules” about how our days should be. Wanna stay in your jammies all day for school, that’s cool buddy. Mozzarella sticks for breakfast? Sure. You wanna go fish in the ponds on the golf course (and put them back) – go for it! Sorry, I didn’t meal prep or shop for lunches babe – is PB&J okay?!? Seriously, last year I would have been stressing the flip out over any of these things. Do what ya gotta do, to get through your day/week/year.
I’m thankful for each and every one of you for reading this. Have a Happy Thanksgiving.