20 Years Ago….

2 decades ago…. I married my best friend. Listen – I know that sounds weird to those of you who know that I have been divorced for like 13 years…. but it remains true.

We may not celebrate our anniversary, but we celebrate a lot of life together day to day. Rich is literally one of my best friends, and that is a fact that I will always celebrate.

Have you ever known someone so well, that you can just look at each other and know what you are thinking? We are in a lot of social situations together, and I always know that I can look at him and feel understood.

We were not perfect together. We grew apart. But he is my family. He is one of “my guys”. he is the one that I call when I need someone in my corner.

2023 has had a couple of real WTF moments for me, and he is the first person I turn to (aside from my kids)… I know that he will be real with me. He will help me when it comes to doing what is best for our boys, and he will always tell me what I actually need to hear vs what I WANT to hear.

We dated for 7 years before we married. We were married and we went through a whole lot of heartbreak and drama to become parents. Let me tell you – I am so fucking blessed to have this man as my ex-husband and father to our kids. I could not do this life without him by my side. We still celebrate holidays together, when it makes sense. We still reach out to each other when we run into challenges, when it comes to our boys.

So it might seem weird to acknowledge it. It might be totally weird to celebrate it…. but 20 years ago today, I married one of my best friends. And though we haven’t been married for a very long time, I will never stop appreciating him as my family, one of my most solid friends, and one of the best dads I know.

Weird or not – happy 20th anniversary to one of my besties. I couldn’t do this life without you. One of these days I will share the shit show that 2023 has been – I am not there yet, still healing… but one day soon I will share.